IF you've already got the winters of blues - the read thing you want is tons suffering on your own. But dark nights CAN lead tons dark endings if you're emergency careful, I has the FOUR Main relationship wreckers for couples ton watch our for. :
A) Poor communication
When couples aren’t talking enough, little niggles become monster issues, with rows on money, sex, work, children and housework topping the list.
But relationship psychotherapist Paula Hall says although arguments start of from a difference in opinion, couples should be able to negotiate a compromise – if they are chatty and patient.
‘Talk, talk, talk and more talk,” says Paula.
“It can be difficult when you are both busy and exhausted, but it’s the most important thing you can do.”
B) Routines
Routines might be comfortable and secure, but they can also create boredom.
It’s a major issue when sex becomes a routine chore. When you know what is going to happen from first to last base it can seem pointless to bother because the excitement is gone.
“Arguing about how often to have sex is nearly always about feeling loved and cared for,” says Hall.
“A sex therapist can help with this but couples should try to spice things up in the bedroom with things they have not tried before.
“Try acting out a fantasy or spending more time just concentrating on pleasing your partner.
C) Not making enough time for one-another
Your partner should be your best friend and you should want to spend time with them.
If you have a demanding job, children and different groups of mates it can be hard to find time for just the two of you.
But try to re-create the days when you first started seeing each other and made time to ‘hang out’.
D) Insecurities
Personal insecurities eat away at a relationship faster than a swarm of locusts at the salad counter - creating jealousy and paranoia.
It can result from a bad experience in a past relationship, which has left you with low self-esteem.
As her plastic surgeon would testify, actor Melanie Griffith clearly has insecurities about ageing.
Even her toyboy husband, heartthrob Antonio Banderas, agrees.
"Hollywood stars are not supposed to be perfection,” he said. “I think it is a mistake. I like her the way she is. Wrinkles are beautiful."
If your partner is happy with you, try to be happy with yourself.
Having that confidence will make you even more attractive and will nip the jealousy thing in the bud.
- Go to the movies
- Go to a restaurant for a drink and talk about fun things – NOT about housework or the kids
- Have dinners for two and snuggle up to watch a DVD
- Go on a weekend trip away together
- Get the house to yourself and give each other a long massage
